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Friday, December 4, 2009

Collection of unfinished postings

Written by: Vikki

As of now I have received nearly 30 mails and several messages inquiring about my lack of regular postings in this blog. I would like to apologize to my regular readers for my laziness. Also I am due to release my new novel and had to spend some time on finishing it, publishers are behind my butt and kicking it. I have started writing few more articles on some interesting topics and will post it shortly. So for the period of time, here is a collection of my unfinished postings.

August 2009

Last few weeks i have been trying to get rid of 2 cockroaches and a little mouse out of my bedroom...they are so adamant and now seems completely taken over the control of my bedroom...henceworth i have been forced to sleep in the hall these days...dont think iam scared of these creatures, i just cant sleep with them when iam not sure of their sexuality, if someone could tell me how to find the sexuality of these cockroaches, it would be really great, i can even send these creatures to your place provided you are a bisexual...the question here is "How to determine someone's sexuality?"...period

Our regular reader Siva asked me to write about the Gay meet i have arranged few months back...Well, as usual it was a disaster...the announcement i have made was too late and there were only 4 guys turned up for the great event...and trust me Siva there is nothing to write about...my uncle in Malaysia starting up a new business and he wants me to take care of it...since Malaysia is kind of native for my mom, iam under severe pressure to catch my flight to Malaysia...iam not yet decided on this, atleast for another 2 years i wanted to stay in Chennai and give a try to find someone special, enrich my career etc

To take my mind off (see, i have a reason), i started dating(please note Dating not mating) guys again...so why am I giving this information? Well I thought you might wanted to know…lol

April 2009

Besant nagar beach has become the latest cruising spot for all PlanetRomeo men. The moment you walk down the footpath you can find at least one guy from g4m in every single meter distance. Last evening I was waiting for a guy whom I have been talking to, on the phone for sometime now. The guy didn’t turn up on time, but I found a group of friends from g4m and joined them. After few minutes there were at least 6 to 10 guys from g4m who have recognized me. And I was happy that they came and spoke to me about our blog and Chennai Dost blah blah blah. It was a proud moment for me when I have realized how much Chennai Dost have reached our people. We were cracking jokes and having fun. Some guys even started talking about the guys who were passing by. I know its naughty but im still young and I enjoyed it anyway. We have decided to go a nearby restaurant and have something for our appetite.

It was a New Mexican restaurant with bright interior designing. We were there for more than 20 minutes waiting for someone to take the order from us, nobody turned up. We were the only people who were in the restaurant. One of our friends got irritated by this kind of service from a new restaurant; he suggested that we must leave the restaurant as unnoticed. As I am always lazy to move my butt, I refused to leave the restaurant and tried to justify my decision by saying “sorry, we can’t leave, I have already used 2 napkins (tissue paper) from the table and drank half glass water”. I forced my other friends to stay with me. After another 30 long minutes a guy came and took the order. I must say the Mexican burger was too cold and the Pepsi they gave me was even warmer. When we left the restaurant we were seriously thinking in our mind which one among us suggested this restaurant in the first place.

We returned back to the footpath and sat just opposite to Barista which is our favorite spot. I must say after the Gay Pride and Court Verdict most of the guys in Chennai have become curious about Gays and gay sex even the damn straight ones. Almost everyone who passed by us was looking at our group, almost everybody looks like gays. Early days it is tough to find out a gay in a group, but now it seems the opposite, it’s tough to find out a damn straight one in a group. I remember a joke which is about a Gay’s perception somebody said even gay’s pet animal is also a gay.

Somebody said there are 5 types of men in Chennai now. Straight looking gay men, Gay looking straight men, bi-curious straight men, confused bisexual men and obvious looking gay men (effeminate). Well, I totally agree to this after observing all the men in the footpath curiously looking at our gay group. One of my heterosexual friend said to me that being gay is much easier to have abundant sex and finding a guy than being a straight guy in India. He also cautioned me that by legalizing Gay sex in India, access to sex have become despicable and effortless, which might break the Indian tradition of sticking to one partner or long term commitment.

P.S: As usual the guy I was supposed to meet never turned up, seems like there is something terribly wrong with my Today’s fortune. Seems like my charming prince never going to let his horse out of the saddle and will never ride on it to reach my place, may be busy Traffic or the horse led him to some other beach by mistake…Fuck all those Cindrella stories I heard

Nov 2009

As i have informed before i started meeting few guys in person who have been following our blog, iam also chatting with them and answering to their queries thro mail...These are the follow up questions from the readers of our FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions) section of May month edition...

Iam thinking of getting married, but my penis is too small, is there anyway i can make it big? (asked by a 32 year old guy)
Iam looking for a sexy bottom in Mylapore, do you know anyone?
In previous "Boys don’t cry" section you have mentioned about Mohit, what happened after that? You had sex with him later on? Did you fuck him? What is his cock’s size? etc
Have you ever had Group sex? if so, may i know your experience? Is it healthy?
Are you Top or Bottom?
I have place tonight, do you like to come?
How many times we can masturbate in a given day?
You mentioned about your sexy straight friend Ar, May i have his number?
I don’t have a voter's identity card, how can i apply for that?
I would like to act in a Gay porn movie, can you help me?

After facing all these questions (totally gross man), im not really sure if i can start another FAQ section...To the people who have asked me these questions, i dont own any sex club here, im not desperate for sex or fun and life is not centered around cock, definitely not a 24 year old guy like me...period


Jan 2009

Prologue: As i said before that im going to write a gay novel, i have no idea about the script neither about storywriting. Infact these days i am not even reading novels, so my idea of writing a novel has been temporarily postponed. Someone said i should write short stories first to get some writing skills. If this story explicits communism or conservatism kindly excuse me for the blunder. Blame my mom for buying me all those Russian novels when i was a kid. After i have finished my short story i sent it to my mom by email for editing, i thought i should save you guys from reading my horrible English. Though my mom had no clue whatsoever about the story she asked me "Why are you digging shit?". I said "Well, i wrote about things which i know". My mom was furious now and she said "My son cant be a pig". I told her "Mom, deal with it, your son is living in this pig world". She said "Live the way you want, but please dont dig shit". I burst into laughter and replied her calmly "Mom, Your son is not only digging shit he is actually eating it". She didnt say anything she went silent and then hanged the phone.

Short Story: Pigs and Gigs

Once upon a time there was a forest (i have read so many stories this is how exactly it started). The name of the forest is Bliss. There were so many animals lived in Bliss like monkeys, wild donkeys, fox, bears, wolves and pigs. Pigs were the highest population in Bliss, so no wonder they ruled the forest. They made laws and rules of their own. Other animals just hate pigs, they felt pigs smells like anything and they had all the bad habits in the world for example digging and eating shit. Not only because of their highest number also because pigs considered themselves as intelligent and talented they never really mingle with the other animals. There were several types of pigs lived in Bliss. Geekie pigs, who thinks they are really talented and very good in numbers. Teen pigs these pigs are very trendy and have lot of bad attitude. Communist pigs who didnt like the hi-fi pigs…blah blah blah (it goes on like this, thank god I didn’t spend much time to continue with this stupid story)

Written by: Vikki

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Friday, October 23, 2009

Poem: Coming out




Once I was there in that darkness filled with emptiness
Clouded with fears and scares threatening to kill nevertheless

I was there standing alone craving to let myself free
Fighting against odd spirits that very notion within me

It was tears all over; spreading its wings traveled all my life
‘Come out’ Liberation encouraged me with an enchanting smile

All my lies and fakes mounting like a lava periling an erupt
Control was not within me, it was the Orb warning to react

Time was running
My heart was dying

Glowing grey hairs portraying the lack of love in my days
Carved with loneliness barricading the truth in its ways

Nature seems to be their only artillery blocking my happiness
Choices are not chosen as virtues under our family values

I was enchained with their beliefs, covered with moral ethics
Killing the true me was considered mercy in their social clinics

Closeting in someone’s shoes hurting my horrified heart
Their Laughter was daunting me to accept that painful act

By resisting to lie
I refused to die

Written by: Vikki

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Pink Text - Pink Xplosion party review

Written by: Sebastian

What is the nature of an explosion and what causes it to detonate? A sentence like this is likely to attract the roaming eyes of the secret services – as any mention of detonation these days is highly sensitive. However, there has to be a bang – but before there is a bang the ingredients have to be right.

Now we all have different ideas of what makes for a great party – some like to drink, some like to talk, some like to dance – and more besides – which I can’t discuss here….

We are all different and difference is what makes the world go round – so before I say anything else about what makes a party – I will say –

You have to begin somewhere – and where better than on the roof of a fancy bar overlooking a beach and the moonlit waves crashing on the shore? It was a grand setting indeed with the added blessing of a breeze to cool the wet t- shirts of the dancing diva’s who gave it their all on the dance floor –

All credit to those in pink who made the greatest effort on the floor – they lead the way with enthusiasm and managed to persuade even the shyest of men onto their feet.

The roof top setting was elegant and so people sat in chairs or talked, like cooing doves on benches beneath the stars. There were introductions and flirtations and guys meeting guys – which is always thrilling – in the open – relaxed and at ease – being themselves – beginning to feel a little more free – little by little……

There was dancing and drinks and food and guys and even a few girls – there were tall ones and short ones and fat ones and thin ones – old ones and young ones and cute ones and fun ones – there was a DJ and a dance floor and flashing lights and a sea breeze – it was a Saturday night in Chennai and it was a party for gay men ……the ingredients for an explosion were all in place.


So there was something for everyone – and that is no small achievement – it’s impossible to please everyone all the time – so if everyone got something from the event that is something good.

So, well done to the organizers – a step in the right direction – as well as a desire to make each event – each month – bigger and better!

As one who has been lucky enough to party in many gay capitals of the world from London, Paris, New York, LA and Sydney – I have to say – Chennai has something non of these cities have now – and that is that Chennai is fresh! Young! Excited by what is possible! Ready to break out and take risks – it’s New! And “newness,” as the great gay modernist poet Ezra Pound said – “is everything!”

Here’s to the next explosion!!

Written by: Sebastian

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Waiting for you tonight...

Written by: Vikki

I was there waiting for his appearance, I was surrounded by hundreds of hot guys wearing different shades of dresses and looks, still I was looking for that special one. Somewhere in the corner of my mind the song from J Lo’s ‘Waiting for you tonight’ playing again and again. “ Will he be there tonight?”, “Even if he comes, will he talk to me?”, “Can I have that beautiful smile from him at least?”, millions of question arising in my little brain, it was multi-tasking.

After hours of torturing time finally he arrived. He was there standing tall with bunch of friends who looked even hottier. I was stoned, speechless. My time machine was running wild; it was in a feral state. The rehearsals I had for that first meet gone totally fuzzy, I had dreamt of that moment, prepared thousands of permutation and combination to approach him and introduce myself, but I lost my maths. I was just standing there like a Liberty statue, my heart was the only organ operating at that time pounding faster than drums of Sivamani.

He looked hotter than the pictures in his profile which I have gone through zillion of times. He was wearing an outfit which could pit my poor costume on that day. Arguably he was the most dazzling guy in the crowd. I saw him still standing there in the entrance waiting for something or someone, I had no clue. Then he just came in. I anchored myself 5 feet away from him when he passed me. I couldn’t move an inch. It was a Sadapti Express, which I could rewind and play in my mind hundred times at nights.

Somebody came and woke me up, I was totally lost myself in the woods. Where were those introduction speeches I have prepared all these days to talk with him? I had no idea if he noticed me, if he knew there was this crazy boy standing 5 feet away from him waiting for years to meet him? My second standard class teacher was shouting at me saying “You are a stupid boy, hopeless idiot”.

Now my sensor was all over him, I was closely watching every move of his. He turned 200 times and looked at people standing behind me. He glanced 100 times searching for someone. He smiled and laughed infinite times to get the attention of someone. I was wondering if he knew my name or at least he knew my existence. It was a horrible, pain taking night. Crashed my memories and fantasies I had all these days. I have managed to say ‘Hi’ to 99 guys out of 100 that night. It must be my worst nightmare. And then in the end I saw him leaving with bunch of hotties. He turned to say ‘Bye’ to someone standing next to me, in few seconds he vanished in the dark.

I came home and slept badly to erase my worst day of my life, if I could have a time machine, I can rewind and go back, say ‘Hi’ to him at least this time. Next morning was even more worse. My laptop was covered with dust. The coffee I drank was sugarless. The day started with pathetic moments. My internet connection was slower than tortoise. Finally I have managed to open my PR account and check the messages. There was just one message, it was from him saying “Seems you were too busy last night, you didn’t even notice me, not even one glance or smile, you said ‘Hi’ to everyone except me, i tried my best to get your attention and failed. I guess you didn’t see me, is it?”

Written by: Vikki

Friday, September 18, 2009

Beer at Bike n Barrel


Last night I was so weary, jaded and lonely. I was desperately needed a smash and stimulant so I dropped myself at Bike N Barrel to have some beer, listen to few numbers and watch good looking men. Thursday night always going to be less crowded and numbers from Bollywood movies. I gave an order for a beer to the sexy bartender out there and started to glance around.

There were different types of men, all good-looking faces, grimed with ecstasy created by the mood and music. Men with bellies over 40’s, newly wed men with their tired face and body after prolonging sex with their wife, late 20’s and early 30’s with their executive faces trying to find their feet among the crowd and then several young studs with lot of sexual energy and sexy smile. They were all their. I was sitting in a corner table trying to find my type and figure out if their any gays. But is there any way to find gays in public places or pubs like this? This must be a million dollar question in the Gay community today.

Wherever I go it has become my lucky destiny that I find someone my type, someone who is interested in me, someone who will give me that wanting smile, but today I was so worn-out to put an extra effort to even take a second look. There were so many cute faces, perfect bodies and sweet smiles. But is there anyone who is going to come to my table and ask me for a dance?

Fortunately or unfortunately I had gay encounters in strange places like traveling in a train or dancing in discotheques or shopping in a mall. There were always someone who will come and talk to me, ask my contact number etc. Sometimes I even wondered if my looks are so gay and obvious. I know that I am not effeminate to give an obvious look and impression in public, but probably the way I look at them or my smile might lure them and give all the right signals, I really wondered.

Back to Bikes, the music was so loud and the mood was swinging from back to forth. I saw him and his bulge in his arms. The gym toned guy might have been a kannadiga or telugu in his late 20’s was wearing tight shirts, tight jeans, it was tight all over. He was with his friend and I caught him staring at me once in a while. And then there was this twink in his early 20’s must be a mallu with a curly hair, causal shirt and low waist jeans. The curly hair twink had beers over his limit, trying to balance his feet. I saw him kissing his friend’s neck twice while dancing. He had lost his conscious then. There were two flabby guys wearing low waist dancing heavily in the floor and seems might loose their jeans anytime An European wearing a specs with a geek look reading some book and having his drink in a corner. Then there was this dark tall guy who has all the qualification to walk in the ramp with a sexy smile and flashing teeth sitting alone drinking. He was looking at his mobile phone, trying to find someone in his contact list to talk to; he must be really bored and lonely then.

Several men, different faces, and so many styles somewhere in the middle I lost my count. Then came the number from Kaminey, my feet was moving I went straight to the dark guy’s table. He noticed me and gave me a warm smile. I asked him “Wanna dance dude?” He didn’t reply, just stood up and grabbed my arm. We danced, danced, danced till DJ tired of playing another music. I could smell the perfume the dark guy was wearing. His arms around my shoulders and then my hips, breathing down my neck I can feel the warmth of his body more closely. I was not alone then, I was among the crowd dancing with a sexy stud, and the beer gave me energy to dance more, sing loud. I still had no idea How to find a gay guy in a crowd.

Written by: Vikki

Monday, August 31, 2009

Chennai Pink An Event Extravagant.. truly extravagant.....















The hype about the event was all over and I personally experienced it when I had to take back to back calls. I was worried that I shouldn't be late like last time and I left home by 3:00 P.M. At times it is annoying to miss a bus and a train which eventually happened on the blessed day. I stay near Tambaram which is pretty remote from the City from my residence i had to take a bus to Velacheri and from there a train to Mylapore. While in the train I was observing the crowd and wondering "will that guy be in the event". I was brought back to senses by a call from Frank ( name changed to protect identity). Frank had already reached Citi Center and was bored as he was alone with hundreds of unknown faces around him. Isn't it true that even though we are not alone... WE ARE ACTUALLY ALONE. Alone among our family, alone among our relatives and alone among our colleagues. So I called Tanush( name changed to protect Identity), gave Frank's number and asked Tanush to find him as Tansuh was also waiting in Citi Center.

When I meet up with them I was even more clear as to what Chennai Dost targeted at, bringing the community together. When we reached I was surprised to see Uma a mutual friend of Teja and I there with another friend both of them Straight and have come to support us. There were also many new faces waiting for the event to start and some known ones like Annirudh(The Shakti Center), Ramki(SAATHI), Kalki(Sahodhari Foundation), Olga and Magdalene( Center for Counseling) who provided the center for the event. For the first time I met Rajesh and Meraj about whom I have heard a lot many a good things. I really admire those two for the support they have given for the group and the community.

Senthil was the host for the day and as soon as I reached we had to run through the whole agenda for the day.

We started with the first event the ice breaker "Hot seat" by 6:00 p.m. which was a fun session. Some of the lucky ones to be on seat were Olga,Srivath,Senthil,Sharanya,Frank,Tanush and Shyam.

Then Vikranth the Director of "Chennai Dost" and "Chennai Pink" addressed the crowd and answered their queries like "What is Chennai Dost", " Chennai Dost's Aim", "Whom does Chennai Dost Target at". Anyways to give a clear picture about Chennai Dost Chennai Dost is a non-profit LGBT welfare organization in Chennai to strengthen and unify the LGBT community.

Gnyani was the Guest of honor for the event and he addressed the crowd. He mentioned that the theater during the 70's itself staged a play called "ஏன் (Why)" which was about Homosexuality.


The Documentary "Rainbow" was screened at 6:30 p.m. Rainbow is a 22-minute bilingual documentary apropos to the first LGBT Pride Parade that took place in Chennai on 28th June 2009, It was produced and directed by Mohan Das Vadakara independent Documentarian. The documentary was clear and very expressive. I kept pausing in between to translate in English but after a point I realized that there was no need for me to translate it as the documentary was actually connecting to everyone.

We had a break at 7:00 p.m. and then by 7.20 p.m screened Shelter.The crowd were really happy about the movie as it spoke of family values, dependency,dreams,love and pain. The movie was about a guy who is forced to capitulate his dreams of art school and spends his life working and helping his compulsive and needy sister care for her son. Later falls in love and is forced to chose between his dreams and the needs of his family.

The event was a success we had more than 60 attendees which was a rally big number..

I personally would like to thank the core group for organizing it and the advisory board for supporting us..

Thank You

Are we ready to fall in love?

I was walking alone in the footpath of Elliotts’ beach (Besant nagar). Dark clouds were threatening everybody to go home. Breezes were even friendlier blowing from all directions. Crowd was cheerful, kids were all over the place, and they were all so beautiful. I was not sure if I am allowed to be there and qualified to walk infront of them. My jean was fading even more by their glares. Then I saw them. Two cute guys hands around each other’s hips with mischievious looks. Somehow I had a feeling that they might be a gay couple. I followed them.

Generally I have this habit of investigating things to make sure of my guesses. You can’t blame me for it, blame all those Jamesbond’s movies I have seen over the years. The two cute guys were playing against each other, one was even complaining about the other guy’s hairy chest. Suddenly one of the cute guys received a phone call and talking over the phone for a period of time. I can see the possessiveness and impatience in the eyes of the other one. It was love, the holy thing I have missed over the years. I was jumping in joy like Einstein for discovering their secret.

How can you choose a right partner?
Do we have to go with “my type” for love?
Why do we fall in love?
What is that we are looking for as gay?

The more and more we look for perfect bodies and cute faces; do we tend to ignore the real love?

I was watching ‘Shelter’ for the third time along with the crowd in the ChennaiDost movie screening. The boy in the movie had a girlfriend but after sleeping with a guy identifies himself as gay and fallen in love with the guy. Though the boy seems to be taken a right decision in the end to live with the guy, but is he taken the decision for the comfortability or he really loved him? I had no answer. The screening room was more silent than my brain.

Last night I received an anonymous message saying he wanted to be in a relationship with me. I was clueless. I had no idea whether the anonymous sender is a guy or a girl, my type or not my type, teenager or an uncle. And I am not used to ask for ‘a/s/l’, so I have called him. Finally the call ended up after the inquiry of my cock size. I have noted down in my Google calender to buy a measurement tape.

Do we really think buying a measurement tape will help us to fall in love with someone or find a relationsip. Recently one of the readers sent me a mail; he wanted me to help him find a partner. I have no idea if he is looking for a sex partner or a life partner. But is there any possibility that I can really help him find his partner when I am struggling to find one for myself. Even if I helped him, Will it last long?

I have already heard about some horror break-ups and love failures among my gay friends. Is there any real measurement, which we can do before getting into a relationship or falling in love with someone. Sooner there are going to be talks about legalizing Gay marriages. But are we ready for a relationship with a guy just like our mom and dad.

One of my friends used to date with 3 or 4 guys in a week. I guess he met all type of guys starting from twinks to bears. And he used to tell me he yet to find his dream boy. Though I knew most of his dating ended up in mating, I never criticized it. May be he is trying to measure his date for a relationship through sex.

My female friend jokes about homosexual guys having more sex than the hetrosexual guys in Chennai. I guess its true. Sex has become cheaper than love these days, which can be easily sold in the yahoo chat room market. But finding a love through Internet may not be possible for homosexuals. Here most of us ask for ‘stats’ even before asking for his name.

Are love and relationship social norms of heterosexuality but not for homosexuals?
Is there any relationship between love and sex?
Why are we always meeting someone in bed?
Why are we not used to hang out just like hetrosexual lovers?

The Internet environment might have influenced us to be only in a sex environment and erased the love out of our life.But if a safe and healthy environment had been provided, Are we ready to fall in love?

Written by; Vikki

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Event for the next Chennai Dost meet

The movie screening a success and we are planning to have a different event this week. So guys please suggest an event ASAP.

It can be a movie screening again or a pot luck or a karaoke night or a masquerade ball.. it can be anything that is safe, fun and colorful... :)

Regards
Gabriel

The Movie Screening at Chennai Center for Counseling















It was seven already and I was late for the Movie Screening, yes me being an active member it was preposterous and irresponsible of me to be late by one hour. I was worried that I was late and at the same moment relieved that I haven't actually missed a thing. To top it all I couldn't find the place and Teja had to fetch me and Senthil with a warm smile was there to welcome me.

As soon as I entered the center I was welcomed by a warm and benevolent Magdalene and rest of the happy cheerful crowd. We had to screen just one movie cause we were short of time and we screened "29th and Gay". Personally I connected to the movie for its intellectual values and I was worried looking at the crowd which contained a majority of youngsters but I was wronged. Remember the situation when you're glad that you're wrong...! I was in that situation. More than the movie I was engrossed with the crowd's reaction and I saw that they also connected.

In between the movie we had a tea break during which Magdalene gave a picture of what Center for counseling is; and from what I heard about her contribution to the LGBT community all I could is to relate to a context of that speech by Shakespeare mentioned in one of his famous play's King John which says

To guard a title that was rich before,
To gild refined gold, to paint the lily,
To throw a perfume on the violet,
To smooth the ice, or add another hue
Unto the rainbow, or with taper-light
To seek the beauteous eye of heaven to garnish,
Is wasteful and ridiculous excess.

The above means that her work communicates that the queer crowd are beautiful and perfect the way they are and that there is sans necessity for them to be altered or changed. Vikranth later talked about Chennai dost and the break turned into a short interactive session.

After the break we resumed watching the movie. The movie itself was a Mirror which communed the actual down to earth occurrences in a gay man's life but with a fantasy ending. It also taught a valuable lesson that "Life is to live and not to survive."

I was content that the screening was a success and wishing that the next coming event will be more interactive and productive.

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Chennai Dost Magazine's promotional Movie Screening at Chennai Center for Counseling

Chennai Dost cordially invites all of you for The Magazine's promotional Movie Screening at Chennai Center for Counseling.

Date: 23rd August 2009, Sunday

Time: 6.00 P.M. to 9.00 P.M.

Venue: Chennai Center for Counseling

18 Radhakrishnan Salai Ninth Street (opp. Citi Center, Inox)

Third Floor Mylapore

Mylapore

Chennai-600004.

The Movie that will be Screened is

29th and Gay (2005)











Cast: James Vasquez, Nicole Marcks, Mike Doyle and David McBean

Synopsis: James (James Vasquez) is a guy approaching his thirty, who is fat, bald and single. While his best friend Roxy (Nicole Marcks) an actress-turned-activist, who struggles to show him that there's still life beyond All that Jazz, his other friend, Brandon (David McBean) who is comfortable in his own gay skin and the one who works on getting James to at least talk to a boy, James feels out of place in the world Men and is smothered between his Hispanic-American heritage and his sexuality.

The invitation is open to all for free, for more info contact Gabriel - 99623 06050 Teja - 91760 16919 (or) Srivath - 97109 03650 or chennaidostt@gmail.com

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

The Perfect Guy





















Wouldn't we give anything to be with a perfect guy...?


But there's nothing to give TO BE A PERFECT GUY....!


The Perfect Guy Would....

1.. Know how to make you smile when you are down .
2.. Try to secretly smell your hair, but you always notice.
3.. Stick up for you, but still respects your independence .
4.. Give you the remote control during the game .
5.. Come up behind you and put his arms
around you.
6.. Play with your hair.
7.. His hands always find yours ..
8. Be cute when he really wants something.
9.. Offer you plenty of massages.
10. Dance with you, even if he feels like a dork.
11. Never run out of love.
12. Be funny, but know how to be serious.
13. Realize he's being funny when he needs to be serious.
14. Be patient when you take forever to get ready.
15. React so cutely when you hit him and it actually hurts.
16. Smile a lot.
17. Plans a romantic date full of cheesy things he wouldn't normally like to do, just because he knows it means a lot to you.
18. Appreciate you.
19. Help others out.
20. Drive 5 hours just to see you for 1.
21. Always gives you a peck on the cheek when you depart from each others company, even when his friends are watching.
22. Sing, even if he can't.
23. Have a creative sense of humor.
24. Stare at you.
25. Call for no reason.
26. Quit smoking, chewing, drinking, or drugs - just because he loves u that much to quit it.


Imagine if every guy turned out to be perfect.....!

Even you....!

Think about it...

All you have to do.... is just be one......

Frequently Asked Questions - FAQ Part-3

What is the meaning of Gay Pride?
Vikki: Well, when you walk along with your friends in the Pride and look at all those by passers looking at you as if you are some kind of joke and then you feel like stepped onto the Cow-shit and managing not to let others know about it. That kind of thing. But actually Gay Pride means gays walk with pride not ashamed of the label given by the so-called social norms and heterosexuals.

What is Monogamous relationship? Does it exist in Gay community?
Vikki: Where are you exactly from, Planet Pluto? After Shri Ramachandra in ancient century no biological man with a cock believed in monogamous relationship in the history of the world till now, not even his successor Lord Krishna. So get real. But of course Monogamous relationship is one beautiful terminology existed only by word, which means two people in a relationship without having sex or relationship with the third person. Beware your boyfriend might be sleeping with your best friend. Especially in our Chennai community it is a big joke, but there are few exceptions. Guys who are fed up of this web-relationship now decided to stay Mono (single) forever. So stay random.

What is the meaning of Threesome?
Vikki: Letting a guy watch while the other two better-looking guys having hot sex. Come on guys, you don’t need an Oxford dictionary for this, threesome means three guys doing something which cannot be typed from my keyboard. May be my keyboard likes Group sex. By the way, aren’t you the same guy who asked about Monogamous relationship? Thats so Gross man…

Is there any terminology called bi-curious?
Vikki: Yes there is, bi-curious means someone who wants to experiment or curious about the alternative sex. After the court ruling on 377 I heard 77% of Indian straight men have become bi-curious. They have become so curious these days they don’t even mind being a bottom. Do you know there is a terminology called Straight curious, it means someone who is actually Gay but wanted to be Straight, they are the remaining 23% anyways. That’s pretty damn straight, huh?

I never been to any Gay parties till now, I wanted to go for one, its my dream
Vikki: Trust me, it is not like you heard. So what exactly happening in gay parties these days, we hug each other and then we start gossiping about him, we drink too much finally we look for a place to puke, nobody stripteases here, there is no gay bars or pubs here, there are very few gays who can dance here and the DJ plays music which can even turn a brand Nelly bottom into straight. And then you have to leave the place exactly at 12. It is a normal party where you can find gays and don’t expect any hot dudes here; they are all so happy sleeping at home hugging their teddy bears, so stop dreaming.

How can i protect myself from Swine Flu?
Vikki: At last there are some advantage of being gay. Most of the gays are so clean freak, so the possibility of infected by H1N1 is less. If you have enough immunity stop worrying about Swine Flu, if you think you don’t have start working on to increase your immunity power. Feel good factor for all cross dressers, please don’t discard your old bra (or the one you have stolen from your sister), cut the 2 cups and use as Swine Flu masks.

Is it mandatory to use a condom for anal intercourses?
Vikki: No, not at all. There are several other methodologies invented by our back bench intellectuals. You can use plastic bags, ballons etc...but if its torn anywhere in between no sweats please. Come on Guys condom is the only way of doing things for anal intercourses. Never ever say no to it, its safe to keep atleast one rubber in your wallet all the time. If you would like to know more about AIDS awareness and safe sex please contact Sahothara or fagatsanthome@gmail.com

send your queries to Vikki at chennaidostt@gmail.com it will be answered in the next FAQ section.

Note : FAQ Part- 1 at http://chennai-dost.blogspot.com/2009/05/faq-frequently-asked-questions.html

A salute to the flag




Well, It's been a while am in this team,though I have hardly contributed anything towards this blog,so I guess it's time that I change that. So when I was thinking about where to begin I felt why not begin with the most recognizable symbol in the world, the rainbow flag. Yeah, the flag which marks the presence in every parades and has been the symbol of pride and unity. Here, in my very first post I would like to write about the origin and how the flag came into existence.

Homosexuality and colours have always been blended together,before the rainbow flag came into existence,homosexuals from each country were using specific colour to express themselves.The pink coloured triangle became popular only in 1980's. Earlier it was purple that marked the parades in 1960's,which even gained the homosexual community the name "Purple Power". The pink colour came into action when the nazi community in germany used that colour to identify gay males, in england they used the colour green.From this one can sense that colours and homosexuality have a long relation.

As each group of people at various parts of world had different ways and colours to express themselves,so the gay activists in san fransisco insisted, that they frame a community symbol. It was the time that pink triangle has not gained it's popularity, so in accordance to their request the first rainbow flag was designed by a local artist,Gilbert baker in 1978. Gilbert baker was not only a local artist but was also the friend of the first gay mayor of san fransisco Harvey milk.

Initially the flag was made with eight colours,pink,red,orange,yellow,green,blue,indigo and violet. According to baker,each colour had their own meaning.As anyone can realize pink,red,orange,yellow and green represented, sexuality,life,healing,sun and nature. Blue indicated art,violet indicating spirit and indigo representing harmony.Thereby a story of life has been told through this colours. It was not long after his creation that the very first open gay mayor, harvey milk was assasinated in 1978. Homosexual community shocked at this brutal assault on one of the mayor who was openly gay decided to show their strength and solidarity, so the committee decided to use Baker's Flag.

At this point the flag had only seven colours, with pink being removed due to the lack of the dye colour. The committee decided to strip of indigo to make the colours even thereby giving rise to six coloured rainbow flag. This flag immediately grabbed the attention of people all around the world thus spreading the powerful aura of the pride with which the homosexuuals marched in 1978 at san fransisco. Later on following this incident, these colours were incorporated into striped versions, the one that modern world is using now.Thus the rainbow coloured flag represents though diversified by culture,language and ethnics we all stand under single community,for which we stand together.
Maybe most of you are aware about this, though I hope this might help someone who wants to know about the symbol with which we march.Would love to hear from you all regarding this.I will continue to post regarding the gay culture and history...

" Let the spirit stay alive,be gay and be proud"

Monday, August 17, 2009

INDEPENDENCE DAY

Written by: Siva


I was lazy on 15th Independence Day after I went for flag hoisting at my work place and was lazying about. What was indepenence all about. We are expected to work hard, make our country proud and remember our leaders who gave us the freedom etc. Why should we be given a holiday? to lazy around ?see movies(xxxx)?, have fun with friends,? watch the usual TVprogrammes? I was wondering.

Because it was a holiday I happened to gain some knowledge?(had I or had I not before is a question). I was listening to Radio Mirchi which broadcasted an interview with famous(Vijai TV) fame Rose.Her interview gave some insight of such transgenders who have been shunned by society and family and how Tamil Nadu is the only State to recognise them and give them their status in education and employment. She said that a transgender has been given admission to Teacher Training course as a transgender. It was.sad to hear the difficulties but glad that there seems to be a light somewhere for them in future.

Freedom is not exclusive to only so called "straight" "normal" people. On this independence day we have to ralise that freedom means same for all types of humans, be it straight ,gay or transgender..

I felt being transgender in this society is more tough than a gay. I wondered whether I, inspite of having sympathy on such transgenders will willingly employ any such transgenders under me? To be frank I might not! as I fear the society and what others will think and co-employees will refuse to work or tease the transgender.? If we are in such a state where we can say we are all free? Free for what ? to hate others? to redicule and hurt others feelings ? put them to shame for what they are not responsible?

Well this extends even to us gays

In the midst of all these insights(??) I got lazying around(benefits in being lazy-we get wise) I switched on to TV and happened to watch a programme on STAR-WORLD a super dancer show. It was different of its kind. About 8 countries participated (including India)and performers performed solo, duet and group dances from each country. All the dances wee great. The Judges were from all the competing countries. The Judge will not give point for a programe when his/her country performs. It was really great to see diffrent dances from different countries. Such style and elegance romance...

My mood got better and I went out for roaming

My Epic - Coming Out

Written by: LGayFriend

Part III: To live with pain!!!

My morning alarm slaughters me. I killed the alarm and checked out the calendar. It points: 08th August 2009 – 07:30 AM. Seven days has been completed since I moved to Shollinganallur. I am unable to believe myself how I survived this whole seven days without him. How did I survived? I would have become mad. Or I would have died. But I am not. Yes, I missed him more than my soul. On every morning I used to rewind my life three months back. Only that energy makes me to keep going these seven days. I believe this energy will hold me for ever.

What I am going to do today? All my roommates have gone to their natives. I would become mad if I stay here for a long time all alone. No, I would cry aloud sitting in a corner, thinking about him. I don’t have any idea how I am going to pass these whole two days. A good idea. Better go to a movie or shopping or beach or relatives home. Just don't be alone. "Just go out from here. Don’t be alone". I keep on repeating this. On and on. I started to think about the plan for these two days.

Usually I won't pray God. But today I did. God! Heaven shake the energy has to hold me to pass my days with out any hindrance.

Why this happed? I regret for the happed thing every day morning. Does this will happen to everyone or this is happening to me alone. Why for me???

I have only one choice. I have to live with this pain. He will not be with me anymore.

Who I am?
I reside near Shollinganallur. And I am pursuing my work in a famous MNC Company near by Shollinganallur. I am a guy with full of exploring and grapping the new technology idea as fast anyone could. But not exploring or very much invades into the Venus. I am totally shit on this. But guys after their graduation came with their dreams. I am different from them. A unique one. Hmmm. Not anymore. But I can say in this way: I am one among the hiding small group in this world. GAY.

Age: 24
Fair color.
Average hairy.
Height: 168.2
Weight: 64.5

Part II: Our Voyage Ends!!!

Date: 31st July 2009
I am so silent the whole day in the office. Rahul asked the reasons only while entering into office in bus, when no one was around. I said "Nothing". He is a person of reading minds. I mean he used to understand other minds. He never asked the question again to me. A nice guy. I entered into my workaholic world with a burden in my mind.

Time: 8:30 PM (Usual time)
Journey: From Office to Anna Nagar. (Usual journey)
Transport: Office Bus. (Usual bus)
I Seated: First Seat. (Usual place)
He Seated: Besides me (Usual place)

But I am going to say the unusual thing to him.

We both started from office. I boarded the bus with a hope that he will really understand me. Bus fired up sharply from the campus. I am silent unusually. Rahul frequently looks my face. He is waiting for me to speak out. The bus crossed Shollinganallur. I though I must. I said to Rahul with a deep ache in my heart with a low tone, "Rahul, I am going to move to Shollinganallur from Anna Nagar."
First he was in shock. But he smiled back and said, "Oh that’s great buddy. Then it will be convenient for you to work right." With a killing smile. I fell very guilty on that day. He hasn’t asked anything regarding the reason of my move. He assumed that it is because of my easy. A nice guy.

I know how he will experience for this departure. And he knows how I will feel the pain. But we haven't shared the pain. We just understood with a look in each eyes.

I said about the new room and the old roommate's suggestion to shift the room.

The plan of the room shift is because of my roommates. I quarrelled with them. But I am the only person denying the room shift. The majority wins.

That day 31st July 2009 was my last day with him, our voyage ends there.

I regret for the happed thing every day morning. Now, I have only one choice. I have to live with this pain. He will not be with me anymore.

Who is he?
He is a guy. His native is Chennai, MMDA. And he is a senior employee of the same Company. He is service oriented and helps everyone. His dressing sense will be too good. I can say about him in a single line. Like: He is totally hot. Or, an awesome guy. What else I can say.

Manly deeds.
Age: 29
Fair color.
Average hairy.
Height: 173.2
Weight: 75.6
Very dark curly hair.
Joined eyebrows.
Very spiky eyes.
Sharp nose.
Small upper lips.
Wide laugh.
Aligned Wight teethes.
Impressive chin and jaws.

Not more than this… He has a perfect manly body structure. He has not been made; instead, he has been designed.

Part I: An immense short life span

I am not affectionate of him only because of his physic. Actually he is a simple, cute, smart, move and manly guy. Yes, these aspects fascinated me towards him.

I couldn't believe that how do I get a friend like him. I have been waiting nearly 24 years to have such a friend. It happened just like that and ended in the same way. I really want to evoke all the happened things in that period. It was a very cheerful moments that will never get erased from my mind.

I have been moved to the office near to Shollinganallur. It is usual thing in my office. My old project got over and I have been allocated to new project. And I am new to the location.

My routine process:
Rise: 6:30 AM
Get Ready to office.
Start @ 7:10 AM from room.
Board the bus @ 7:20 AM at Anna Nagar Deppo.
Sit in First seat.
Read the story book (Angels and Demons), till i got sleep.
Wake up: When bus crosses Sathyabama University.
Step down into office by 9:15 AM.
Have breakfast all alone.
Will enter into my working environment.
Have lunch all alone.
Will enter into my working environment.
Have dinner all alone.
Will leave by 8:30 bus.
Reach my room by 10:30 PM
Have a bath
Read the story book, till i got sleep.


Once every one boarded into the bus, we used to sign in the Bus Entry Sheet Form. Since I am the first person I will start sitting in the sheet and pass on to the next sheet. Mostly by associates in the back sheets will be sleeping. I have to get up and move to the third sheet to pass the sheet. It will happen frequently. The person to whom i used to pass the sheet is Rahul. He will board the bus at MMDA. He used to watch me often, having question as why I am all alone. Firstly, I haven't cared at him. But the things changed in over night.

Date: 05 may 2009. He sat besides me in bus. But I haven't cared about it. As usually I started reading my story Book. Next day, the same thing happened.

Date 07 may 2009. He started talking me. He sounds very professional. He introduced himself and his expiries. He is working in another phase, handling a team. I introduce myself to him.
He is a type of open person. And this goes on, goes on. We both glued together so soon. I believe that his out spoken character makes me to bring together. I come across such feeling when I am along with him. I stopped reading book and forgot to sleep in bus. We talked, talked and talked. We planned to start back together from office in the same bus @ 8:30 PM. We used to meet and talk only in Bus. I started to wait for the moments with him. Days pass on and passed on. He used to hold my hands very tight and say "Bye Hari" with a cute smile, and then get down in his stop. I liked the mannerism.


We used to speak in many topics. Beyond what friends used to talk about.
· Projects Related doubts
· Work Pressure
· Politics inside the projects
· Appraisals Rating
· Promotions
· Models followed in the projects
· Many Project and Account levels topics
· Self Improvement
· Motivations
· Career Developments
· Suggestions / Solutions
· World Economy
· Schools / Colleges enjoyment/ Scores
· Interests and Hobbies
· Gym / Body Building
· Commenting on girls (Though I am not this type. I enjoyed as he enjoyed)
· Friends
· Friends problem
· Family Problems
· Marriage
· Movies
· Terminator - Arnold / Varananm Ayiram - Suriya
· Shreya (He is very crew on her)
· BF (A very dentally. He is expert in that)
· Cine Songs
· Dreams
· Books
· People characters
· Computers / Electronic Items
· Other Jobs
· Cars


Date: 21 July 2009 he was so depressed. I asked about it. He said his parents were searching for his life partner for the long time and showed him three photos. All were not looking good. So, he shouted at them. He said: "Hari, I am not asking for a high personality woman. I am searching for a normal personality with good characters. She should be young around 23. But my parents are showing me women around 26 and more. They do not understand my feelings. It is hurting me more and more. All were too stout. I lost the hope of marriage Hari. I have been so genuine and controlled myself for this." He just spilled out every thing to me from his mind. The day I felt pain in my heart. He was silent till he gets down.
Once I reached home, I message him: "Rahul, I am not made to get married... Guess you know why.. Probably it will be more bitter feeling than what you are experiencing now. I know you will be the right person to talk about this... But I think it will create bad look on me, if I tell you... Hope you won't tell anybody... Rahul, I am GAY... It sounds chilly... But... Guess you will understand me... Pls don't feel about me.. You are the only person to know about this... AND PLS DELETE THIS MESSAGE..."
Reply came from him immediately: "Ok gentleman. No worries... Will enjoy the present life.. Good Night... TC".
I slept that night with complete comfort. After unloading and sharing the long time locked big burden.
The next day, he looked very fresh and clear face. He chatted with me usual. I felt very happy. He was back again. He was never sad for his delayed marriage. He said "Hari, I want to be like this itself". I won his mind.
But the happiness only lasted for next ten days. The situation separated us after 31 July 2009. I am not taking the bus any more as I have shifted my room neat to office. I missed every moment that I have spent with him and mostly the way he used to say bye while getting down from bus.
Usually I won't pray God. But today I did. God! Heaven shake the energy has to hold me to pass my days with out any hindrance.

Why this happed? I regret for the happed thing every day morning. Does this will happen to everyone or this is happening to me alone. Why for me???

I have only one choice. I have to live with this pain. He will not be with me anymore.


I completed this epic on 08th August 2009 @ office, and it took nearly six hours to complete. Yes, I haven't gone for shopping or movie or beach. This epic is only for my Rahul. I fell so happy. The remembrance will not be taken away from me. It will be always with me and along with me and alone with me for ever and ever.

Written by: LGayFriend

Thursday, August 13, 2009

L'Original


L'Original

Originality is what I crave,breathe,aspire.
yesterday I was conscious but not today
and will not be tomorrow.

Being me has made me feel me,
When I was young I walked in
someone else shoes.

They smothered me; my identity of who I am.
but now I have hatched myself to be me.

Committing my own mistakes, my own blunders,
has invigorated my being.

Even when monstrosity supervenes on my own
accord I will embrace it.
Because I am me....

Written by: Gabriel

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Unveiled: Sebastin's party

34, 23, 36….no that is not any girl’s size and I can never be straight to talk about it either. These are the runs scored by Sachin Tendulkar in the beginning of his test career. Though the runs he scored were less but the brilliance and master class was quite obvious. The beginning of new era was written all over the media then. It’s more or less the same in Sebastian’s party last night.

The dazzling music reverberated like a wind in the motion, lights were crawling like a sunshine revolution and then the host Sebastian’s sexy moves and smiles made a great impression. Hotties who turned out for the party will sure have got the signs of a new party trend. Lead the way, which was written all over Sebastian’s warmth hosting. Even the shy ones started dancing for the beat. It was Mexican all around.

We need to have more parties like this in Chennai, not like once in a blue moon earlier. I was looking at the dancer floor and found the rainbow lights which later encircled my sight. My friends, no matter how many times you met them, they still shows that friendly gestures and carry infinite number of gossips to talk. Isn’t it what a gay party all about? Though there were very few twinks and new arrivals in the party, but who gives a shit about types and faces after few pegs of drink anyway. The party went on till 12 midnight and the music was fading in slow waves.

The thumpa thumpa goes on, it never ends...

Friday, July 31, 2009

Newton's Theory

Written by: Vikki

Newton said "when you do something, it revert back right into your ass with full force". Well, you have to believe it without choice. You eat a list of things in a given day starting with a milk tea and then four chapattis, aloo masala, pizza, pepperoni, nuggets, tea again, mutton biryani, vegetable salad, prawn, egg masala, pepper pappad, gobi Manchurian, chicken lollypop, cappuccino, ice lemon tea, Mexican burger with extra cheese, tea again with samosa, 4 aloo gobi parotta, paneer tikka, chenna masala, fruit salad, apple milk juice and ends with a desert. Well, next morning you will see the newton’s theory implification and feel sorry for what you ate.

You curse about the hot weather the whole summer and then the rain pours down like it is not going to get another chance screws your entire evening plans including dating a hot guy. And when you step right into the street you have to do all this bungee jumping because of the rain water mixed with holy Koovam river stays everywhere on the road. Well Newton really sucks, bigtime.

Somebody said if a butterfly flaps its wings there will be a reaction somewhere in the corner of the world, it’s totally true. Don’t mistake it for Globalization. Poor butterfly has nothing to do with your commercial world; it’s just wanted to fly away from you so that it can get rid of your stinking smell. Personally I can flap my arms like a bird and fly to the moons, but finding someone special, who is my type, is really difficult.

There is this guy in g4m who kept sending messages to me quite a while ago. Obviously I was one of those guys who go for looks in the first place when I date someone, so when I saw his pictures which were not impressive, I said ‘Not interested’. Then I met the same guy in the Gay Pride after few months and I found the guy irresistibly hot, he got this sweet smile which will melt your heart right away. I sent him a message asking for a date this time he replied with ‘Sorry, you are too late’…Well, Newton’s theory again.

There are so many things in life proving Newton's theory like the immediate reaction you get from your dad while showing your Progress report or a heavy and long jerk off the never-do-it-again feeling you get after your cumshot or the hysterical comments i am going get from Newton's cousins for this article. Well, Newton is everywhere these days.

But sometime Newton looks like a stupid and his theories, especially in g4m. You keep on sending messages to some hot guy, but he never responds like our unanswered prayers to the god, you wonder whether your messages been translated into some alien language in g4m by mistake. You can forgive poor old Newton, if he ever had one profile in g4m he would have never come up with that equal and opposite reaction theory.

Obviously Newton plays every part of our life, but we must try to proof him wrong. We can’t let someone like weird looking Newton to decide our life. If things go wrong when you do something, we fight it back just like the baby which tries to walk even after several falls. Nature taught us the technique even when we were a baby. When you let someone know you are gay, there is going to be obvious reaction to it, but we are not taking it back, we fight to live the way we are, not the way they wanted. Let us show our middle finger to Newton.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

A CATHOLIC AFFAIR

Written by : Desmond

There wasn’t anyone at home but me, they all have gone to attend a marriage and would be gone till the next evening. Two beers left in my fridge, 21:00 Hrs, perfect time to have some FUN . I login at Yahoo messenger and join the Chennai Global Chat room number 9 !!! 22 M Santhome With place !! I advertise , lots of guys pinged me & I selected two from them they were very HOT (Saw their Cams) ! But they said they cant meet me right then, but swapped numbers with me. I happened to pick up a conversation with one Bro X who earlier used to live in the street perpendicular to that where I lived but shifted to Perungudi. We talked almost everything under the sun, stuff like religion and everything!!! I learnt that he comes from a very devout Catholic family!! And was a parishioner at the same church my dad prays at. We could not meet that very night. We planned to meet the next week or whenever my place was free

Three days later I met him near the church; there was something crazy about his dress and the way he spoke. He was a CATHOLIC PRIEST!!!!! He belongs to the Jesuit Seminary; he was doing a research on GAYS!!! He actually wanted to pick up information and that’s why he had chat with me!!! All this he told me after I took him home and was READY for it!!!! He gave me a picture of mother Mary – Sancta Maria, Mater Dei which means Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us, and gave an hour long lecture on eternal damnation, the bible, Sodom and Gommorah and the laws and the statutes of the Lord!! We went out for a walk after that and he left shortly.

We meet for the second time and now in Loyola College at his room. He prayed for me and took me out for lunch, gave me a longgggg piece of advice to turn STRAIGHT !!! By now we both were more like brothers I started talking to him about my personal problems. But I felt something somewhere was going wrong – yes I couldn’t take a stand and tell him that this is how I wanted to be. We were in contact for a while and used to meet at coffee day until he flew to Afghanisthan to serve at a church there as a lecturer.

One day he again calls me and says he is in Chennai and would like to meet me. The moment he saw me he came running hugged me and said “Good to see you again loving brother, how are you?” and kissed me on my cheeks!! I guessed the next question – Do you still date men ?? I said –YES ! He again started his , Oh! You need Jesus in your life – lecture. I just wanted to leave from there. He did not stay long that time.

Afghanishtani Chruch – Economy teacher – Bro X !! he sends mail about bible , jesus, mother mary, etc.,etc.,!!! But now I took a stand and said im GAY I cant change , Will you marry or not ??? – Yes I will, but a MAN !!! (I was proud of myself when I said that so loudly over phone everyone around me looking at me!!!). he just said – I still love you brother !!! I said - me too.

Month of June – 28th – Chennai Pride Parade everyone is excited, lots of people come out to their parents and close friends!!!

29th I go online J again ;) – Bro X again!!! We were talking about the Pride, and I slowly started talking about how the church tortured the homosexuals and others those days. He said that he doesn’t support everything that the church says, he said- The church says not to use condoms, but what will a married hetero-sexual couple do when they want to have sex and not a baby!!! Use a condom!! I thought now is the moment!! I said – Bro X what do you personally, not what you were taught at the church, you as a priest and your own personal opinion, what do you personally feel about gays. He was explaining many things and said “Religion is between YOU and GOD, just the two of YOU, FUCK the church!!!!” I was sooooooooooo gggllaadddddd I couldn’t type a word I was moved to tears!!! Now I said – Brother I Love you!!! He said – I love you too my dear little one- God bless you!!! He had to go out for shopping and I stepped out of the cafe so GAY and HAPPY!!!!!

Written by : Desmond

Monday, July 27, 2009

Join Chennai Dost Media group

As we have already informed about the launch of new Online Gay Magazine (with a seperate domain name as Chennaidost) for Chennai, we would like to invite people who are interested in writing, blogging, journalism, photography, web designing, graphics designing, painting, website marketing can join Chennai Dost Media group and provide their valuable contribution to support LGBT community in Chennai. Please send us your details to chennaidostt@gmail.com

Cheers
Chennai Dost Team

Saturday, July 25, 2009

What the Stars say for you - Gay Horoscope

Written by : Siva


Well I like many others do believe in horoscopes. It is said to be a super maths where one (an expert) can calculate the position of the "stars" time of birth etc and predict our character and future. Good, it is interesting. But does all the experts are able to predict correctly the future of all their 'clients'. I doubt. I have visited many astrologers and men with super powers. To be frank I was always tense when I meet them--WHAT IF they found out I am 'gay' and revealed my most guarded secret to the world?

Thank God no one has ever been able to do it (I even wondered whether they knew if such persons existed.) I am happy about this ignorance.

When they could predict very many things like love marriage, arranged marriage, birth of children, separation, extra marital affair, divorce second marriage etc etc why not the fact of being gay?

It was really a puzzle. We find that the gay life was in existence even in olden days. Then may be the ancestors thought not to make a big issue of it?? May be or thought it as a passing phase in life not to mention or cover it up?? Well one really does not know.

Regarding the question why the predictions or prophesies of even the greatest astrologers does not prove correct in all cases, there is a story line to it. Once Sage Viswamithrar came up with greatest finding of a formula by which one could predict (if he masters the formula) each and every minute of a human life. He reported it to Lord Shiva who tested him and he was able to tell Shiva what exactly Sakthi was doing that particular minute. Lord Shiva was thrilled to find that his devotee has made such a discovery. So both went to Lordess Sakthi and proved the formula. Mrs. Shakthi was displeased rather than being happy. She immediately cursed that the formula will never be able to work correctly. Flabbergasted at this Lord Shiva and Sage Visvamithrar asked for the reason. The Mrs. Lordess Shakthi said smilingly that "men dont think on sensitive and explained that it could lead to disaster on privacy and every private moment could be predicted and 'seen' clearly and would be a shame if every thing could be predicted. Secrets have to be secrets in some cases.

Both agreed but still thought that the formula of prediction is too good to lose. So they pleaded for modification of the curse. Hence Lordess Shakthi took pity and said no one can predict the exact minute details of privacy and no one will be able to predict 100% perfectly in all cases. Hence no one is able to predict everything correctly. I think that is why Gays were protected by the gods. (?)

Maybe now the Gay issue is given so much publicity that the astrologers of tomorrow will give it as a reason to answer queries on delayed marriage or refusing to marry. And who knows they might even offer special poojas to "cure” the person. Whether it will help to solve the problem of gay guys in the closet or not is a question each will have to decide.

This month Gay Horoscope, the lighter side of what the stars say for you.

ARIES March 21 - April 19
It goes from bad to worse to terrible this month. How bad does it get? When was the last time you were tempted to phone your ex and suggest maybe it might be a good idea to get back together again? Yeah, that bad. So there's really only one solution, if your month is going to be that bad, then make it really ba-a-a-ad, dude. I mean, like down, dirty, filthy, ugly, ghastly, horrible ba-a-a-ad. If it's just going to be karma (and trust me, this month is karma in spades), then figure out a way to enjoy the lust. Like some sins is just too much fun not to enjoy. And if you're going to have to pay for it anyway, then at least pay with a stupid smile on your face for something you really enjoyed that turned your crank big time.

TAURUS April 20 - May 20
Beware getting distracted by friends with a huge bulge in their pants. It's padding. This is your month to be deceived by those with hot crotches and twisted agendas, although you might not see the difference given the energy the stars bring to your life. If it's not the words, then it's the seductive look, and if it's not the seductive look, then it's the promises, and if it's not the promises, it's the husky voice, and if it's not the husky voice, it's the body. Sound like you last love affair? Yup, only worse. This time you might actually believe it all. Dangerous, dangerous. Beware commitments made in the peak of orgasm. You will live to regret them, the commitments that is. Other than that, not a half bad month for making money. Go figure.

GEMINI May 21 - June 20
You are about to get snookered, and we are going to love watching the show. Now let's set the stage. You've spent how many years now flitting about like a butterfly from one bedroom to the next, never getting to the point of anything except the release in your groin, and often enough that was an afterthought. Hope you enjoyed it while it lasted, duckie, 'cause the Universe is going to get its revenge on you. You are so ripe to meet what you think is just another silly trick to cast aside, when WHAM! You fall head over heels in love having finally met someone who takes you to the core of your very soul and bounces you off the wall to boot. And you never saw it Cumming. All the smart money is betting on this one. (BTW, it won't last.)

CANCER June 21 - July 22
Crawl out of your bloody little hole for once. Look, if the boss says you gotta travel this month, well so what if it's an existential crisis because you have to leave home for three days? I mean, you can hire a cat-sitter for Christ sakes. And for once stop whining. Do you have any idea what action awaits you in some foreign land while officially you're out of town "at work"? Look even the expense account is covering this one. Ahem............only a damn fool would say no to this opportunity. Get your passport updated, Dorfus. Do you have any idea how many drop-dead gorgeous people stand in line with a passport application they can't figure out? Now wouldn't it be just right if you helped them a little bit?

LEO July 23 - August 22
Maybe I'll just shake my head and walk away flumbustergated right off the top. Every little fantasy you've wanted, you get. Every big fantasy you've wanted, you get. Every hot little number you've ever dreamed about, you get. Every hot little affair your throbbing crotch has ever desired, you get. Every perfect soul mate you've every spent umpteen past lives with, you again meet. Every lottery you've ever bought tickets for, you win. Now maybe when I get over being totally flumbustergated, maybe one of us will wake up and realize that dreams are what make the long lonely nights tolerable.

VIRGO August 23 - Sept. 22
As if you need any new reasons to rip yourself apart on the insides, but just in case you're starting to run low on neurosis (which I doubt, but then life is full of surprises which is what drives a Virgo bats), here's one to rip your pants off. The stars say the only way your horny home life can be satisfied is by traveling to a foreign land which you, temporarily at least, call home. A bit of a contradiction. The only really successful resolution is to find a foreigner to massage your home parts, which are fine until you fall in love, and then tune in for next month when you wake up and realize you've totally forgotten about Sainthood. The Virgo Committee will not be amused.

LIBRA Sept. 23 - Oct. 22
Any excuse for a party. November is good enough. Maybe you can dream up a couple of other shallow justifications, but November will do. But this party has to be a bit different. It's a foreign party. No locals. The guest list must all be from some exotic land, and we would hope everyone speaks with a suave, charming, but difficult-to-identify accent. Toss out your tacky Barbara Streisand CDs, dear, and get something exotic, like the chanting Llamas from the Peruvian uplands. Cater some truly arcane cuisine, like Mongolian midnight water mangos. Light up some African fertility candles, and then Viola! It finally happens. You finally have your chance to score the humpy little Italian who just moved in down the hall last month.

SCORPIO Oct. 23 - Nov. 21
Pardon me if I yawn, but is there ever a month in your life which is not Sex Month? It's not that I'm bored (although I think I've seen this show before), or ungrateful (how can I not say thank you for more salacious gossip than one could ever find on a soap opera?), but could we just try something perhaps, just a little more original? I mean plunging into soul-searing sex with a dark, mysterious stranger who seems to have the aura of the Secret Celestial Beings of the Seventh Order of the High Secret Brotherhood of The Chosen Ascended Masters, is like so been-there-done-that. I mean, like could you just send me the T-shirt instead? Or maybe a postcard? Even a laundry list might be a nice change of pace.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22 - Dec. 21
Your lover has never told you the truth, never will, and never could if so motivated, which your lover definitely is not. And everything, I do mean everything, is your lover's fault, without exception. Fine. Now that we've covered the basics, grab said lover and proceed to the bedroom. Leave the quarrel and the door. Turn off the lights, light up some incense........(Geeze, this is starting to sound like one of those horrible relationship manuals we all barf at when we channel surf into it, but then even Sagittarians need reminding about priorities.)..........seduce the stinking little blighter! Who the hell gives a damn about lyin' cheatin’
‘words when you've got the hottest little number this side of heaven to f**k?


CAPRICORN Dec. 22 - Jan. 19
Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you, but not this month. First off, that hot business deal? Be very wary. There's something you don't know about that's being hidden from you that you better get a handle on before you commit yourself. So off to the bars. See that swarthy little number in a dark corner giving you the eye? Be very wary. There's something you don't know about that's being hidden from you that you better get a handle on before you commit yourself. Ah well, there's always your favorite park for cruising. Be very wary. There's something you don't know about that's being hidden from you that you better get a handle on before you commit yourself. The tubs? Be very wary. There's something you don't know about that's being hidden from you that you better get a handle on before you commit yourself. Got the idea for this month?

AQUARIUS Jan. 20 - Feb. 18
Be careful what you wish for, dear Aquarius, because you just might get it. Haven't you always wished for the perfect friend, who just turns out to be the perfect lover, soul mate, and life companion, but really just the finest friend one could ever have? Uh-huh. You wouldn't be an Aquarian if you were not hard-wired with that fantasy. Well, here's your month. Go for it...................ah; you're waiting for the catch. You're right. Just what would you do if you actually found such a person? Would you be prepared to stop playing your games, get real, and settle down to a reasonable little life behind a white picket fence in some god-forsaken suburb filled with breeders and born-agains? Be careful what you wish for, my friend.

PISCES Feb 19 - March 20
I was tempted to leave the Pisces section blank, because that pretty much sums up November for you, but then my agent phoned up and said I better say something. Okay. "Something." How many ways can we talk about this something, The Void, the great Emptiness which is everything but not something at all? It is The All which is Nothing yet is really something. Yeah, it's starting to sound like I'm on weirder drugs than you are or something. So let's see if we can anchor, ground, or at least do something with this ephemeral meandering. Any fantasy comes to mind? Mind? Oh, sorry, read the installation manual, and then boot something up. Something might just happen, but then again it might not. Not to worry, we'll think of something. Something like that, I guess.

Friday, July 24, 2009

On an Evil's night

On Thursday night in the middle of my deep sleep, I received an urgent call from one of my friend, his voice was wobbly, he was breathing heavy, he sounds like he might drop the mobile phone anytime and then he asked me if I am online. It was 1.45 a.m midnight. It was the same time all the dead ones will be wandering down the street without any goals, my grandma used to say that all these creatures used to jump from one tree to another and they even sing chorus. While looking at my grandma’s face, her wide open mouth and her grey hair fallen over her shoulder, I used to believe these creatures do exist. Sometime I secretly watch my grandma at every 1.45 a.m midnight.

Coming back to the point, I told my friend with an irritated tone that nobody will be online at this ghost time, unless you are some Call centre guy trying to hold a conversation with an irritated customer to educate him the difference between Microsoft Windows and glass windows of his house. 5 years before I was working in a call centre as part time, my shift actually starts at 2.00 a.m midnight. My dad usually jokes about it saying that if I am a call centre guy or a call boy leaving for work at midnight. Of course I was getting fucked by those irritated US customers by phone. I was wondering what triggers my friend to wake me up in the middle of my sleep and wanted me to be online. He asked me to go online and check youtube.com. Well then, I lost my patience. I told him that he dared to wake me up this time and check some stupid videos, but eventually I did. I logged in. As usual my internet is one of the slowest things in the world; it remains you all those Tortoise and Rabbit race stories. For example if you wanted to check a mail from your uncle who lives in Canada, by the time my internet shows my mailbox, I would have gone by boat to his house and returned back. Well, I don’t have any better example to showcase my slow internet connection.

After switching on my Laptop I thought of having some fresh air, so I opened the front door and then I was baffled at what I saw in front of my eyes. I saw a thing in round shape, covered with blood and some other flesh. It was there lying just opposite to my front door. I saw it on the television news 2 days before that these days they kill people, cut their bodies into several pieces and through it in random places. Probably, some murderers killed someone and thrown his head in front of my opposite flat. I had this quiver all over my body, suddenly my heart pulse gone high and I was expecting my heart in my open mouth anytime. I have adjusted my eyes, put the lights on of the front area and seen the thing. My heart went again to its original place; fresh air coming from the open space was blowing in front of my face. The thing which was lying in front of my door is not actually a head of a human body, it was a pumpkin covered with red powder (kungumam). The guy who is living in my opposite flat believes in all these Mantra & Magic. The scary little thing in front of the door must be one of his belief to get rid of his problems, I thought he must get rid of his alcoholic habit first, instead scaring his neighbors with his magic and mantra items.

When I came back inside my house, the internet connection somehow managed to pull itself in. I went straight to youtube.com and checked the videos that my friend asked me to watch. I was about to puke then, I ate only 2 chapattis that night and I felt it might come out anytime. The video was showing some guys pictures that have profile in PlanetRomeo. It was a screenshot, showing several guys’ pictures, details of their sexual preferences and location etc. There was even a contact number. This time I was annoyed by this. Whoever posted this video must be really aggravated by the rejections of these guys and wanted revenge. This is not the first time somebody posting a screenshot of gay’s pictures in youtube. Last year somebody did the same and I found several of my friends’ pictures in that video too. I had to inform one of my friends who was working in Google operations to remove the video. Also I have realized the moment the news about this video got out to the community most of the guys removed their face-picture from their profile.

We are putting up so much effort to motivate and encourage guys to come out of their closet, but video like this will not be helpful at all. I have no idea who is posting these types of videos, but either he must be a homophobic who wants to discourage gays or someone who wants to be a famous queen asking his friend to post the guy’s picture including his own. Last time we let this guy go, but not now. We have found clues about the guy who is posting videos like this and he will be punished. If things like this continue to happen we will take legal action against guys who are laughing at gays and bisexuals. Please remember that Gay sex is almost legalized in India and we are just waiting for one more step to go ahead. If you are going to do all sort of evil things like this and refuse to respect others privacy in our Gay community, sooner you will be educated by us.

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